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Posted yesterday but got no replies so trying again!I recently started a new job that was initially terrible. I had high hopes when I accepted it knowing it would have introduced some significant new skills and allegedly would have had lots of avenues for progression. There are legit criticisms about the onboarding but also there were other things going on in my life that definitely intensified my negative feelings while I was starting out. I thought cutting my losses was the best thing to do so I started aggressively networking, something I didn't do before getting this job because I was keeping my search on the D/L from former colleagues.Much to my relief and pleasure, people were great and rushed to help me. They were sympathetic and gave me advice and contacts. Don't get me wrong, I expressed my appreciation and I followed up and followed through with everyone. I accepted every interview and informational interview that came my way, on top of doing my own intenseLinkedIn canvassing. Some nuance is that I came from a high up, specialized position but I relocated so if I stayed in my old industry, I would have to start from the bottom again. It was a little embarrassing to me at first but I'm ok with it now and my networking helped me understand better. The thing is, since I hated my job I tried to keep it secret, thinking if I got out quickly enough there wouldn't really be a resume gap and I'd have my story tight. I felt no need to give notice. People I sent my resume to, people who looked at my LinkedIn--it wasn't there.Now it's getting to be weeks/months later, and people are still coming out of the woodwork with real and informational interview requests under the impression I'm unemployed. Maybe I underestimated hiring timelines, especially coming out of the summer, but it feels endless and disruptive and exhausting now. For the sake of keeping my options open, I'm continuing to take interviews but at the same time I'm coming around to my current job. Things are starting to click and I've gotten some nice compliments on recent assignments. I've been job searching for so long and getting tired of the distraction of interviewing on the clock (I'm 100% remote) because I have more to do. On the one hand I'm thinking I'd really like to give it a go and stop taking any new meetings. My pay and benefits are great and the work is getting interesting. On the other hand, I worry about FOMO if things get shitty again and also because I was interviewing to get back closer to what I was doing before and there is comfort in the familiar.The other problem is I don't want to look like a jerk to people who helped me when I said I was desperate, and I don't want to look like a liar to people who took interest in me. Sometimes I fessed up about working if the question was really direct or it felt right, but other times if people referenced me not having a job I just kept my mouth shut. These interviews are among a small circle professionally here and I don't want to burn any bridges. Does anyone have any advice for how to approach this?
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