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Hi,20-something FSo, I confessed my feelings about how my step father had treated me to my mum today.Sidenote: I had told mum some of what he did to me a few months ago but I ended up saying everything he did today. And to be honest, I feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. He is my mum's ex and she has been with a new partner for 2+ years.I told my mum how my step father ignored me growing up. How he could never give me a compliment/ ask me about my day/ praise me unless he was told to or felt like he had to say it. I also told my mum how I felt anxious and nervous around him and would breathe a sigh of relief when he left for work. How my step father hated a gift I bought him as I heard him mutter in another room "Who the hell buys someone a f*king David Beckham gift set?" My step father was a person who would only say goodnight to his two biological children and forget the third child unless they initiated goodnight. A person who would make it clear that they saw you as a stepchild and not their own when they bought 'step daughter' cards for you. A person who would get annoyed at you if you text them multiple times, and they call you by mistake and you check to see to see if it was any concern/emergency only to be told that they '...would *never call you in an emergency.' My step father was an individual who got absolutely disgusted at their step daughter for not being aware that her breasts could be seen through her pyjama top and was offending him and his son (my brother) to then make her feel like she has to wear baggy, oversized clothes for years later. An individual who just couldn't muster the energy or the energy to get to know his own step daughter. An individual who did a lot of things to me (and is know slowly becoming the same to his biological children.) My step father is someone who has been blocked on my phone now. He is someone who I'm glad I never refer red to as 'Dad' - he doesn't deserve that title.My mum asked why I didn't say anything - I told her I was scared what she would think. I thought I would be accused of lying or making things up. I didnt want to ruin my siblings relationship with their dad.But I know now. And it feels great. My mum's husband praised me for speaking up and wants to help me (with my mum) build my confidence up. I would never have thought that a father role model could have an effect on you as my mum thinks that must have been the reason I went reserved and quiet.I would recommend to definitely voice what is going on internally as it does no good keeping it in for all these years. (In my case 10+ years). Always speak up when you're ready and speak to a support network of people that you feel comfortable with.Thank you for reading this....
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