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I wasn’t sure which flair to use for this. It’s a little complicated. Long story short, three years Situationship / FWB whatever you wanna call it.Both divorced and late 40sWe talk about things here and there. He had a child who was getting close to being a teen with no phone, but this child wants to have a job. There is a disagreement between the mother and him as far as getting phones for the kids. I know that’s a hot button issue with many divorced parents and non-divorced parents.I have training in education especially in that age group. I happen to have an extra Apple Watch that has GPS and cellular so I dropped it off at his house, but he wasn’t home so I left it outside and made sure to send him a note and a couple of videos that it was there and I dropped it off on a day That he did not have his kids. I made sure to say do you want with it. I’m not trying to meddle in this but it’s an option. And this may help, and it’s not a phone and it might be a good way to let his child grow up a little bit and be a little bit more confident because this is a tough age. And having a job like that would keep his child away from bad influences of other children. But again, I said I’m not meddling I don’t getting in the middle of things. I sent this from a position of my training I said he could do what he wanted with it. Just wanted there as an option to think about it.He didn’t mention anything which isn’t unusual for him because we don’t talk every day, and sometimes he just doesn’t bring things up. So I figured he just didn’t want to deal with that and didn’t want to use it and was just going to do whatever with it. We did text after that and he mentioned nothing so I didn’t think too much of it I got a text yesterday asking if I’d left to watch there. His kids found it because he never had picked it up from outside of his house. It was out there for a week. I don’t know his kids his kids do not know about me.He texted asked if I’d left it there, and I said yes and I sent you messages and he said well -I didn’t see it cause I was sleeping or whenever and now I have this issue with my kids. They’re asking a bunch of questions and now have to deal with this all day. I mentioned that I had sent him the videos, and message like a week ago. And again said why I done that and I wasn’t trying to metal and that it was just the way he could pair it with his phone and then give the child some a chance to do something positive and confidence boosting. And was not happy because he had to deal with all the questions. I suggested just to tell them that someone left it there by mistake or that a friend left it. He said he’d figure it out. He said he was not going to do anything with it, and he was not going to pair it with his phone.So I just figured OK he’s pissed at me. I’m gonna go still do my own thing for the day. I felt terrible because that’s not what I wanted to have happen and definitely didn’t want to ruin his day and cause issues with his kids. I hadn’t unpaired it from my phone or my account because he wasn’t gonna use it and I didn’t want it to get lost. Fast forward four hours I get another text from him with a screenshot that it says it’s locked and it’s lost or stolen and I said well it’s not and I didn’t realize I had to take it out of my account. I’m a late Apple adapter I thought it would cause it had to erase itself, which I did remotely because I forgot to do it before I left it so I thought it would get onto the network and then erase and then I could take it off. I was trying to help him via text and he was upset because he said the whole thing caused him to yell at his children multiple times. and they’re still asking questions. I thought he had to log on first and then it would reset. While texting, we tried a few things a few things, I gave them all of my passwords, it didn’t work and then I took it off my account and I haven’t heard from him since.I don’t know if this is just him cooling down, just him (he’s very busy ), or if I massively messed up. I let him know that I wasn’t blaming him for missing the messages and that I definitely did not mean for his kids to find it and I thought with it being there well before they were going to come back and letting him know ahead of time he had found it, but that it was my fault for assuming. And that, regardless of what I meant, it didn’t change what happened and I felt terrible for ruining his day and I realize how much pride he takes in his work and on how he treats his children he’s an excellent father by the way, and then I felt terrible for causing that issue. And I apologized multiple times.I took the blame because it was what I did. And I apologize multiple times again, and I can sometimes be overly nice and apologized for that. I mean he’s known me for three years. He’s he knows me. I know him we know each other but sometimes we don’t. If that makes sense. I’m not sure there’s anything else I can or should do. so did I massively F up? I feel like absolute shit. Do I just need to give it time?If you read through all of this and actually understand it, thank you
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