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I (21F) moved into a shared suite a few months ago. I’m sharing the common areas with another girl (20F). When I signed the lease I told her and my landlord that I was just looking for someone to cohabitate with, I’m a busy person so I’m out/in my room working a lot. Not a bestie. But like if we got along amazingly I’m not opposed to it. Anyways fast forward a few months in and my roommate is driving me crazy. She tries to start conversations anytime I’m in the common spaces (like she’ll come out of her room when she hears me in the kitchen) and I’ve started just hanging out in my room the entire time to avoid her. The thing is she’s just super passive aggressive. Like all she tries to talks to me about is how men hit on her all the time, how she thinks she’s so beautiful and how she only eats one meal a day/has a perfect body. Every conversations is so negative and it impacts my mental health honestly. I don’t care if she’s obsessed with her appearance that’s her life, but it’s really annoying when I’m trying to live and she won’t stop talking to me. Also she keeps trying to get dinner/go to movies/spend a day downtown and I keep telling her I’m busy because we literally have zero vibes/chemistry. We’ve hung out twice and it was super awkward and she just talked about herself the entire time and asked me invasive questions about my life (like how much money I make, why don’t I talk to my mom, etc.) I’m also in the same industry as her and quite a bit more successful so part of me feels like she’s just using me as a networking tool. Which feels icky. The thing is I know she doesn’t have any friends (I mean I understand why) so I feel bad. And I’ve really tried to give her a chance and see if a friendship is there. So, do I just hang out with her as the nice and polite thing to do, or how can I nicely explain that we live together but we aren’t friends? Any help would be appreciated I really don’t want to accidentally hurt someone’s feelings.
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