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For context I am relatively young (20F), and I had a massive crush on this guy. I don’t know where it came from, I have never felt a crush like that in my adult life. I keep dropping hints, and he eventually picks up and we start dating.We work together and I do not like being a messy person, however I was (very naively) persuaded to drop logic for him, he also was leaving our workplace to move country for a job, but must come back in a year’s time to finish his studies. He is quite the workaholic. To add more to the mix some of his closest friends still works with me. Unfortunately the rose glasses were screwed on TIGHT. We become official and I do everything in my power to make it work. He is talking about Valentine’s Day, holidays we could book together, everything you could imagine. Two months pass and I fly to visit him. I had booked tickets to a show for his birthday that he asked me to reschedule because he wanted to watch a sports match in a bar with his colleagues (we went while I was over and it was incredibly underwhelming). He has planned nothing, and the man who left had disappeared completely. Different guy. He told me three nights was too long to spend with me, he apologised that the only thing I ‘wanted to do’ (his birthday present) he had asked me to rebook. Whatever. I flew to him on a Friday, the following Friday he broke up with me. This man who had reassured me and told me that asking me to be his girlfriend was the ‘best decision of his life’ two weeks prior was no more. Worst of all because he is in another country I am left to tell everyone in work, to deal with his friends etc. why he broke up with me, which I had no real explanation for. I also had flights booked for a month later which he kindly offered to reimburse me on while breaking up with me. At the end of the month I was meant to fly over with some of his friends. I don’t fight the breakup. I go no contact, block him on everything. I haven’t spoken to him since. I still fly over at the end of the month though, his friends who flew too have my snap location. I go and see a close friend instead and I have the time of my life. We go to the show that was supposed to be his birthday gift. Curiosity got the better of me, his friends were a three minute walk away from the theatre in this massive city. This sounds egotistical but I knew then he was thinking of what could have been. After proving to myself that I can still fly over there and creating new memories in the country I had started to associate with him. I start going out more. Instead of spending each night on call with him, I establish a good network of friends. One of them is a mutual friend whom he introduced me too. Now a lot of our mutual friends are posting photos I am in on Instagram which he has to see.Now this social circle has been established in the work place, his close friend (we’ll call J) is not a part of it. I see J for the first time after the breakup and it’s been weeks after the breakup. They were so quiet and almost guilt ridden despite them not being the one to breakup with me. I had a gift for them pre-breakup, I still gave it to them after the breakup. I invite them to the workplace’s social outings. I know my ex is having to hear about me through them.There was a workplace party recently, J decides to say my ex’s full name loud enough to try and get me to hear it (my friend told me as I was too drunk to notice). My friend gets incredibly defensive and decides to invite J to a bar (I beg them not to). They later explain that J probably spent at least $50 on taxis to and from the bar whereas we had a friend (very kindly) picking and dropping us off for free. We stayed in the bar for 20 minutes before we ditched. J would have to explain how they had been scammed out of money to spend 20 minutes with me and my friend to my ex.It doesn’t sound like much, and they clearly don’t care that much or my ex would have reached out. However I take pride in them having initially thought them dumping me would destroy me, and I assume they are worried about having to come home once the year is up.
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